Abstract This article focuses on the different roles of lesbian ex-lovers in the writer's life. She divides her exes into two categories: consummated friends and ex-wives. The determining factor is whether or not the lovers lived together as a committed couple. Consummated friends are no exception to her belief that every relationship has significance, and this article shares how even relatively brief affairs expand concepts about sex, relationships, and self. Although many lesbians keep ex-wives in their intimate circles, she resists this practice. Consummated friends, however, continue to be an active part of her life. This article reveals the personal how's and why's regarding one woman's choices in connection (and disconnection) with her exes.

Consummated friends are significant relationships for the writer, while ex-wives are not, and they play varying roles in her life.

Consummated Friends and Ex-Wives

Key Takeaway: Consummated friends are significant relationships for the writer, while ex-wives are not, and they play varying roles in her life.